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March 2nd, 2007

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10:26 am - Principled
I use the "social bookmarking" site ma.gnolia. One of the things I like about it is that I often find links to interesting or unusual things that I otherwise would have completely missed. There are two such examples today.

The first is an interesting look at suggesting other interesting or unusual sites. It calls itself Soul of the Web. I don't know how they choose the sites they recommend, but the first few I looked at were at least interesting.

The second prompted me to share this with you, gentle reader.

As you may remember from my last post, one of my values is Joy. I define that as "being happy, having fun" and it means to me that I will do best doing things that make me happy. Enter ma.gnolia and a link today to a site laying out The 8 Principles of Having Fun. If you want the full explanation, go to the original site. But reproduced here if you're too tired to do the clicky thing or get annoyed at Flash content, are the principles:
  1. Stop hiding who you really are.
  2. Start being intensely selfish.
  3. Stop following the rules.
  4. Start scaring yourself.
  5. Stop taking it all so damn seriously.
  6. Start getting rid of the crap.
  7. Stop being busy.
  8. Start something.
The only one of these I initially took exception to was number 2, Start being intensely selfish. The movie explains this point, however, as related to the first one as part of "Get Focused." It goes on to say, "Get hungry for the things that are truly important to you. Think of the people you respect and love, the moments you relish, the impact you want to have, the legacy you want to leave. Bottom line: don't waste your time on anything else." When put like that, the negative connotations of "selfish" disappear for me.

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Date:March 2nd, 2007 06:27 pm (UTC)
I think that anybody who really took this list seriously would become a major pain in the neck to friends, family and coworkers, and possibly local law enforcement.

Of course, it's all a matter of balance. Obviously, these guidelines are aimed at people who are so busy worrying about taking care of/pleasing other people that they turn themselves into nervous wrecks. However, I worry about these suggestions falling into the hands of the kinds of people who are ALREADY inspiring their friends, family and coworkers to think things like:
(1) TMI! For God's sake, TMI!!!
(2) Consider thinking of somebody besides yourself for a change.
(3) It would be nice if you followed the rules like everybody else.
(4) Please stop scaring me.
.... and so on.
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Date:March 2nd, 2007 07:19 pm (UTC)
For me, it all started at the end of high school. I was bright and eager and everyone told me that I should go to college, get an Electrical Engineering degree, get a job, live happily ever after.

Well after spending three years at the U figuring out that I didn't really want to be an Electrical Engineer, I drifted into the job market and ended up where I am today. I was real good at doing what other people wanted and I'm only now, nearly 20 years later, taking baby steps towards figuring out what it is that I want.

I promise to use the power the list gives me for good. ;)
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Date:March 2nd, 2007 06:49 pm (UTC)

Glad it isn't only me looking for joy.

This corresponds to the what I have been reading and working on in a book called the Joy Diet by Martha Beck.

Truth = Stop hiding who you really are.
Desire = Start being intensely selfish.
Risk = Start scaring yourself and Stop following the rules.
Play = Stop taking it all so damn seriously.
Creativity = Start something.
Nothing = Stop being busy

Here's her list.
1. Nothing - stop mindlessly chasing goal and figure out what is worth going afer. Do nothing for 15 minuts a day
2. Truth - Create a moment of truth to help you unmask what you're hiding - from others and from yourself.
3. Desire- Identify, articualte and explore one of your heart's desires and learn how to let yourself want what you want.
4. Creativity - Learn six new ways to develop at least one new idea to help you obtain your heart's desire.
5. Risk - Take one baby step toward your goal (The only rule is it has to scare the pants off you.)
6. Treats - Give yourself a treat fro every risk you take and two treats just because you're you. No exceptions, no excuses.
7. Play - Take a momen to remember your real life's work and differentiate it form the games you play to achieve it. The play wholeheartedly.
8. Laughter - Laugh at least 30 times a day. Props encouraged.
9. Connection - Use your Joy Diet skills to interact with someone who matter to you.
10 Feasting - Enjoy at least three square feast a day, with or without food.

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Date:March 2nd, 2007 07:21 pm (UTC)

Re: Glad it isn't only me looking for joy.

Nice list. I see where the correspondences match up. I should look that book up. (Once I stop being too busy to read....)
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Date:March 2nd, 2007 08:52 pm (UTC)

Re: Glad it isn't only me looking for joy.

The book is an easy. Sometimes I wish the practice was as easy. ;)
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Date:March 2nd, 2007 09:31 pm (UTC)

Re: Glad it isn't only me looking for joy.

Sounds like another book I read, Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton.
Date:March 2nd, 2007 11:05 pm (UTC)
How about

"Live True"

1) Live true to yourself, pay attention to your needs and desires
2) Live true to others, honor your commitments, pay attention to others, and treat others as you would like to be treated
3) Live true to the earth, pay attention to how your actions affect others and the planet.
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Date:March 4th, 2007 03:25 am (UTC)
Not a bad set. I wonder, though, if they lead to fun. Not that they preclude fun, but they don't seem to be designed to specifically bring it about. Certainly a good guide to live by, in any case.

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