July 19th, 2006
|12:54 pm - In favor of hugs|
As I was falling asleep last night it occurred to me that I've been very fortunate to fall in with a social sub-group that's big on hugs. I like hugs. There is something inherently right about hugs; they are both welcoming and supporting. I can't think of any other gesture that accomplishes what a good hug does.
I particularly am amazed that, among a group of folks generally identified as socially inept, the number of men I can point to and say that I exchange hugs with them. Upon showing up at Baggiecon up in Winnipeg, for example, it was completely natural to get hugs from several of my fellow campers. Some of them I hadn't seen in months, if not years. The hug as welcoming gesture, however, put us right back in the same relationship, as if we had never left off.
So hugs: good. That is all.
Current Mood: relaxed
Current Music: Tiger in Your Tank--Muddy Waters--via Pandora
|Date:||July 19th, 2006 06:29 pm (UTC)|| |
I totally agree! My friends are the same way - we hug all the time. Some of my friends here get it and appreciate the hugs. Some of them think that it has to "mean" something. Sigh.
Yes. Agreed. Hugs = good.
There is actually some controversy about hugs, at least in the right corners if you ask the right questions. I am one of those hugging people, as much as I've ever been; but Louie is uncomfortable with hugging people she doesn't already know really, really well. And someone else I am on cordial terms with (Felicia Herman) is also emphatically not a hugger; in fact, when Felicia did hug me out of noplace at the last Minicon, it was a bigger deal to me than one might expect because she almost never does this. I think that, on the whole, yes, hugs are good; but respecting other people's boundaries is good, too, because these hugs simply *aren't* a cultural universal, even within fandom.
|Date:||July 20th, 2006 12:43 pm (UTC)|| |
Oh, yes, I recognize personal boundaries and was speaking only for myself. I was trying to think of those I might encounter from whom I would not accept a hug and couldn't come up with any likely candidates.
I will never hug you! Unless, like, you offer pie. I'm a slut for pie.
I'm going to make key lime pie RSN :-)
I like how cheap key limes (and tomatillos, but that's a different matter) are at the mexican market.
RSN = real soon now
I love that we now have much more choice of goodies in Minneapolis now that the city is much more ethnically diverse. I'm hoping RSN we'll find a decent tomato in a supermarket too.
|Date:||July 20th, 2006 12:41 pm (UTC)|| |
I may be mistaken, but I think you have hugged me. There may have been whiskey involved.
Whiskey may equal pie for certain values of pie, and whiskey.
It's like math.
Taking a controversal stand there, aren't you?
|Date:||July 20th, 2006 12:40 pm (UTC)|| |
Sometimes, a guy just has to step out from the crowd. And get a hug.