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July 19th, 2006


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12:54 pm - In favor of hugs
As I was falling asleep last night it occurred to me that I've been very fortunate to fall in with a social sub-group that's big on hugs. I like hugs. There is something inherently right about hugs; they are both welcoming and supporting. I can't think of any other gesture that accomplishes what a good hug does.

I particularly am amazed that, among a group of folks generally identified as socially inept, the number of men I can point to and say that I exchange hugs with them. Upon showing up at Baggiecon up in Winnipeg, for example, it was completely natural to get hugs from several of my fellow campers. Some of them I hadn't seen in months, if not years. The hug as welcoming gesture, however, put us right back in the same relationship, as if we had never left off.

So hugs: good. That is all.
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From:emyjo
Date:July 19th, 2006 06:29 pm (UTC)
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I totally agree! My friends are the same way - we hug all the time. Some of my friends here get it and appreciate the hugs. Some of them think that it has to "mean" something. Sigh.

Yes. Agreed. Hugs = good.
From:markiv1111
Date:July 19th, 2006 06:47 pm (UTC)

Hugs

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There is actually some controversy about hugs, at least in the right corners if you ask the right questions. I am one of those hugging people, as much as I've ever been; but Louie is uncomfortable with hugging people she doesn't already know really, really well. And someone else I am on cordial terms with (Felicia Herman) is also emphatically not a hugger; in fact, when Felicia did hug me out of noplace at the last Minicon, it was a bigger deal to me than one might expect because she almost never does this. I think that, on the whole, yes, hugs are good; but respecting other people's boundaries is good, too, because these hugs simply *aren't* a cultural universal, even within fandom.

Nate
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From:jbru
Date:July 20th, 2006 12:43 pm (UTC)

Re: Hugs

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Oh, yes, I recognize personal boundaries and was speaking only for myself. I was trying to think of those I might encounter from whom I would not accept a hug and couldn't come up with any likely candidates.
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From:lollardfish
Date:July 19th, 2006 07:08 pm (UTC)
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I will never hug you! Unless, like, you offer pie. I'm a slut for pie.
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From:von_krag
Date:July 20th, 2006 02:57 am (UTC)
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I'm going to make key lime pie RSN :-)
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From:lollardfish
Date:July 20th, 2006 01:41 pm (UTC)
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RSN?

I like how cheap key limes (and tomatillos, but that's a different matter) are at the mexican market.
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From:von_krag
Date:July 20th, 2006 06:16 pm (UTC)
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RSN = real soon now

I love that we now have much more choice of goodies in Minneapolis now that the city is much more ethnically diverse. I'm hoping RSN we'll find a decent tomato in a supermarket too.
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From:jbru
Date:July 20th, 2006 12:41 pm (UTC)
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I may be mistaken, but I think you have hugged me. There may have been whiskey involved.
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From:lollardfish
Date:July 20th, 2006 01:40 pm (UTC)
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Whiskey may equal pie for certain values of pie, and whiskey.

It's like math.
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From:barondave
Date:July 19th, 2006 09:07 pm (UTC)
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Indeed.
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From:minnehaha
Date:July 19th, 2006 10:29 pm (UTC)

Hugs

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Taking a controversal stand there, aren't you?

B
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From:jbru
Date:July 20th, 2006 12:40 pm (UTC)

Re: Hugs

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Sometimes, a guy just has to step out from the crowd. And get a hug.

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