July 2nd, 2003
|11:13 pm - The grind|
My schedule over the last week has really worn me down. Ericka and I were talking today and both had reached the conclusion that one of the problems is that I never really have time off. I'm working, sleeping, or taking care of Ericka pretty much all the time. When that happens, I get burned out and lots of things slide by the wayside. Bills get late. Things I do for me, like writing, never get done. I don't get out to see my friends.
So I'm trying to think of ways to get that time for just me (as selfish as that sounds) on a regular basis. Suggestions are welcome.
One idea that I've had has been to take a day off and go driving. I was off to help laurel move her couch today and I had the tunes crankin' and the window down and I just felt happy. I wanted to just keep on driving, no where to go, no schedule to keep; just drive.
Another thought has been to take a one-day-a-week "job" as a writer. Go off to a cafe or library with the laptop and just write.
Current Mood: curious
Current Music: Tennessee Plates--John Hiatt--The Best of John Hiatt
|Date:||July 2nd, 2003 09:38 pm (UTC)|| |
Hm. Maybe make a writing date with a friend, or a bill-paying date? I might be up for sitting together in a cafe and writing, and then taking a break to eat and talk, or take walks, or whatever.
The bill-paying date might work if the bill-paying part was conducted while each participant was home, checking in on some message board or whatever, and then with a general rendezvous and celebration prefaced by the ceremonial dropping of the payments into the mailbox amid much rejoicing.
I'd be up for either one, actually, or both.
|Date:||July 2nd, 2003 10:22 pm (UTC)|| |
Hmm. That's an idea. Having someone to help reinforce the plan is always a plus. Bonus good for being able to "not let down" someone else and for something that can be planned ahead. We'll talk after Winnipeg, we will. (And, well, while there, but prolly not about this and all.)
|Date:||July 2nd, 2003 10:48 pm (UTC)|| |
After, but likely not while there, because I'm not going. (I'm hoping for many good post-Folk Festival reports, and have been making noises about having a party for same.)
|Date:||July 3rd, 2003 02:36 am (UTC)|| |
See, I thought I saw you say that and then I saw Dave's post listing you as one of the city mice. Perhaps there is a surprise in your future. In any case, there will be tales a-plenty, I'm sure. (And there's always technology for long-distance lioness communication....)
Taking time for yourself is not selfish. It is sane. If you can't work less and can't sleep less, maybe some friends (like me) can spend more time with Ericka. I don't what time-chunks Ericka's and your schedules have and how much of what you do someone else could do, but you could, for example, ask friends to come over once a month for 2-3 hours. If five friends did so, you could have 10-15 more Peter-hours a month.
The days just fly by, and they all seem full, but if I put on my calendar that on (just for example) the first Monday of every month from 8-10 a.m. I visit Ericka, then that's what I do. Scheduled time is easier than ad hoc time.
|Date:||July 3rd, 2003 10:01 pm (UTC)|| |
Interestingly, Ericka had just that thought today as we were coming home from clinic. I'm a little doubtful of finding five people that would be dependable on a regular basis, but I bet I could find seven that could be dependable on an irregular basis. I'll think on this and talk to more people about it too. Thanks for the input!